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How Can My Home Can Be a Holy Place?

March 3, 2016

Organize yourselves; prepared every needful thing; and establish a house, even a house of prayer, a house of fasting, a house of faith, a house of learning, a house of glory, a house of order, a house of God. – Doctrine & Covenants 88:119

How can my home be a holy place printable by simplistically sassy

Is your house anything like mine?  

The door open and closes (or stays open) off and on all afternoon as kids come in and out, and back in.  Feet running by me taking them to their destination with big plans in mind.  Laughter filling the air as siblings play, or yelling as they fight.  

How can my home be a holy place when there is a varying within families of relationships?

 There is a varying of attitudes, experiences, and personalities.  There always seems to be the underlying gift of love though.  No matter what happens, the love is there.  The desire to protect and watch over each other.  Sometimes that good desired is out weighted by the unrighteous desires of our hearts though.

What can we are parents do to bring that good in?  How can my home be a holy place when somedays there is so much contention?  We have to set that example, and we have to be acting the way we want to see our kids acting.  We should strive to be their best example.  

I recently read  book entitled My Home Can Be a Holy Place, by Kristen M. Oaks.How Can My Home Be a Holy Place? By Simplistically Sassy

I loved it!  It was such an easy reminder of the small things that can make a difference.  It was a perfect book to enjoy for a Family Home Evening lesson with the kids.  We took this to heart, and included the points talked about in the book, and used them in Family Counsel to create a Family Mission Statement.

The best part of creating a Family Mission statement was that the kids were SO involved in it all.  

We wanted them to have input, after all, they’re a huge part of this family too.  Part of our mission statement implements the ideas from My Home Can Be a Holy Place.  So, how can my home be a holy place?  Love.  Teach.  Be patient.  Listen.

I wanted to share what we created with you.  So, if you have hard times in your family getting along, finding peace, or remembering the Savior, you can hang this in your home as a reminder of how you’d like your house to be. 

What do you create a holy home?

Yesterday, Today and Forever

March 23, 2015

I’ve been really thoughtful lately about how to better my blog, and how to really help other people through my blog.  I think posting fun ideas is great, but I want this to be a space that can help lift and inspire other people.  

I’ve had the opportunity to read a new book called,Yesterday, Today, and Forever by Elder M. Russell Ballard.  I have loved this book more than I even expected to.  I’ve really needed some of the words that he talks about and I have felt genuinely inspired to go in certain directions with certain aspects of my life. 

Yesterday, Today, and Forever-March 2015

I have also just been uplifted and felt the love the Lord has for me as I’ve read.  I think sometimes we all need that reminder.  We need to know we’re loved and remembered and that someone is there that understand and knows us.  It’s nice to be reminded.  Sometimes as a mom I feel like everything I do around the house and for the kids is just automatically expected of me, and no one really notices or cares if it gets done (although, they would if it DIDN’T get done, lol).  Sometimes picking up the scriptures or an inspiring book and reading words that touch our hearts and our spirits is just what we need to keep moving, to keep going and to keep doing the dishes, the laundry, and making dinner that no one likes (again!).  

Elder Ballard says: “Now, finally, I turn again to you dear sisters, you who have such a profound, innate spiritual ability to hear the voice of the Good Shepard.  I pray that you will sleeping aids never wonder again if you have worth in the sight of the Lord and to those He has called to preside in the Church for a season.  We love.  We cherish you.  We respect you.  We need you.  We want you to anticipate fully in the work of salvation.”  He goes on to say, “More than ever before we need women of faith, virtue, vision, and charity, as the Relief Society declaration proclaims.  We need women who can hear and will respond to the voice of the Lord, women who at all costs will defend and protect the family and the Church.  We need women who rejoice in their womanhood and have a spiritual confirmation of their identity, their value, and their eternal destiny.  Above all, we need women who will stand up for truth and righteousness, decry evil at every turn, and simply say, ‘Lord, here am I, send me.'”

I found those words so powerful!  Am I doing that?  If I am, how?!?  What more can I do to be a woman in the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints who can help life and inspire others?  How can I better share my testimony and the gospel?  What am I doing daily to reach those goals and strengthen various aspects of my life that need strengthening?  

The entire book is filled with various topics and discussion and words of wonderful wisdom.  I hope you’ll take time to read this book.  It really is wonderful and so helpful in bringing us closer to the Lord in the various ways that we all need.

How to Stop Yelling at your Kids

June 18, 2014

5 Tips to Stop yelling at your kids by Simplistically SassySometimes my house gets loud.  The kids are running around, playing, fighting, playing super heroes, or house, or racing.  There are so many things that are going on at various times that it’s bound to get loud sometimes.  Sometimes, in those moments, I have to yell.  Not in the mean mom way, just in a way to even be heard over all that’s going on.  

However, there are the moments when I lose it.  When I can’t handle what’s going on, or what someone is doing, or what they’ve done to another sibling, or to me.  I’d yell, I’d get upset and I’d be so irritated.  Then, I’d be upset with myself for the way I acted.  

Then, I noticed that they were yelling at each other.  They weren’t speaking kindly.  They weren’t problem solving like I’d been trying to teach them.  That’s the problem.  I’d been teaching them in the wrong way.  I knew that I had to change something.  I had to change the action that was, unfortunately, clearly as loud as my words were.  

I had to figure out how to stop yelling at my kids.  It wasn’t even an option any more.  It was something that HAD to be done.  So, I decided I was going to do it.  

5 Tips on How to Stop Yelling at your Kids

1.  Make the choice.  Just like anything that is going to actually get done in life, you HAVE to make that choice.  You have to make it every single time that something happens, and you’d normally raise your voice.  This is mandatory.  You also won’t be perfect every day, but if really, this will always be the number one thing for everything else, is to just decide that you’re done yelling.

2.  Get on their level.  If you’ve got younger kids get down to their level – or bring them up to yours (as in, but them on a chair, or something, lol).  My kids are SO much better at paying attention to what I’m saying if I’m at their level looking at them.  I may have to remind them to look at my eyes very often, but at least we are both there, and they can look at my eyes easily.  They aren’t straining their neck to look at me while I scream at them from so far away.  

3.  TALK to them.  Don’t yell, but make sure they still understand that you mean business and you aren’t just being a get away with anything mom.  You need to make sure that you’re following through with any consequence that you’ve told them you’d give them.  You don’t have to scream and yell to follow through with things.  You can get down on their level, and explain that you’ve talked about things, and that since they still didn’t do A, then B will now be happening.  

4.  Take a moment for yourself before talking to your child if necessary.  Go into the bathroom, or you bedroom, the closet, where ever you can have a moment to yourself.  Take a few deep breaths and just really take that moment and figure things out.  What do you need to say to your child, or teach them.  What will be the best thing to say to teach them the things they are struggling with.  Think things through before you just barge in on the situation.

5.  LISTEN to your child.  If you’re going to ask what happened, let them tell you!!  If you’re going to ask why they did something, let them tell you!  Sometimes kids have to think things through, and figure out how to say something.  Give them time to do that.  You may be surprised what they have to say if you take the time to listen to them in the heat of the moment.  Their intentions may have been much better than you think, or there may have been an honest mistake, or there may totally not have been a mistake.  I think when kids know you’re willing to listen and not yell at them after they tell you the truth, then they’re more willing to be open with you in the end.  Don’t let them get away with everything, but they need to know that even if they must have a consequence, they can at least know that no matter what, you’ll still love them.

These are a few things that I’ve seen help me when I have wondered how to stop yelling at my kids.  I truly feel like as I really make the effort to do this, my house, even if it’s loud, it’s so much more peaceful.  There is more good than crazy, and we are all better about interacting with one another.