Ever wonder how to do it all? Or how your neighbor seems to? I often get asked “How do you do it?” or “I just don’t know how you do it!” I’ve learned something though. We ALL do “it”. We all do what is placed in front of us. No matter what “it” is, no matter how hard “it” is, we struggle, we are brave, sometimes we are weak, and feel defeated. But we do “it”. We pick ourselves up and keep going. Sometimes it’s just trying again, or keeping at something like the same ol’ mom routine day in and day that that is wonderful and difficult all at the same time. When we are driven by something bigger than ourselves, we can always try again. We may fail again, but we can try as many times as we need to.
I would like to share with you how a recent trip to Walmart went.
Sometimes I just have to get out of the house. I have errands to run and things to prepare for, and some days I just have to get out for my own sanity. Taking 5 kids (#2 was visiting my in-laws for a couple days) any where is never easy. Taking any number of kids anywhere isn’t always easy for that matter.
All of my kids were newly out of school for summer. We were gearing up for the Science Birthday Party. I needed to get several things. There are days when my kids do really well in the store, and other days, when they just do not do well. Don’t we all struggle with that sometimes though, lol.
As we worked our way through out the store, sometimes searching for something without finding it only to have to re-search the same isle several times to either come up with nothing or finally find what I couldn’t see, the kids were becoming more restless as time went on.
My baby really hates the cart. Like, a LOT! She will only sit in a cart without SCREAMING for 5 minutes, on a good day. She hates it. On this particular trip, I’d given my 8 year old the responsibility to feed her some cereal that I’d brought along with us, as we walked, so she’d be content just a little bit longer. He’d get distracted easily by my 2 year old and 3 year old who decided that they should be super “funny” and run away together up and down the isle and back again. All the while running around/through/into people. My 8 year old would try to help the little kids catch up to where we were and get upset with them when they weren’t close enough. I finally realized he honest to goodness thought I’d just leave them there in the middle of the store to be lost. Sigh. I had to stop and explain to him that I hadn’t lost them up to that point, and that I wasn’t planning to lose them today either. My 5 year old was just staying close and holding onto the cart.
As we got to the isle that supposedly had 3 oz plastic little containers, I told my kids to stay close, and to NOT play in the giant area of toilet paper/paper towels (do your kids always have to go hide in that area when you go to Walmart?? Mine can never obey when we talk about it. Sigh. Some times are too tempting I guess). They just had to play and be crazy, and of course there had to be way too many people in the isle to actually look properly for what I needed and watch the kids, and hold the baby (because by then she was done eating, done with the cart, done shopping, and probably tired … or maybe that was just me …). I didn’t find those containers. I gave up after several minutes, and went to look for other things I still needed.
In the mists of all this craziness, I’m sure we had at least 2 bathroom trips, which are always too long, and never when we’re near the bathroom. Not to mention public restrooms are just not my favorite. I felt like we had become a circus show. The problem was, I HAD to get a few things then, and I couldn’t just up and leave (well, I could have, but I really needed a few things right then). However, we survived the trouble makers running, the baby screaming, the bathroom trips, the worrisome older brother, and all the other people that were there to stare on.
I don’t remember what check out was like. I was probably just a daze and a rush to get out of there all at the same time. I do remember that my 2 and 3 year old were NOT staying with me. As a leave a store, that is just not an option. I had to put them both in the basket of the cart. They were not excited about that at ALL! I tried to focus on getting to my car, so I wouldn’t see the people looking, whispering, pointing at my yelling son saying he wanted to walk (aka run around as far away from me as he could get away with).
I got to the car. They all climbed in. We had a mini wrestling match to get kids buckled. It finally got done. The cart got emptied, and I climbed into the front seat and had to cry. Only for a moment, but I had to. I felt so defeated and so alone. My kids had looked forward to our next stop since we usually get a free cookie, however, I didn’t have the emotional strength to go anywhere else. There were more tears and whining that followed that announcement. I didn’t care at that point. I just had to get home. I had to get the kids doing something else and getting their energy out. I needed a moment to just sit. I needed to put the baby down for a nap.
Know what though? The next morning, I had the kids all get dressed an we went out again. I needed to get a few things I didn’t find at Walmart. Some how I mustered the energy to try again. That day was much more successful in terms of kids being good at the store. We still had kids running around, still had bathroom trips, but it was just a better time of day.
It’s those times when we can pick ourselves back up (even if it’s hours, days, weeks, months) and try again. We all do things differently, and we all do different things. We all have challenges, and some seem harder than others. It’s how we endure, and how we keep on keepin’ on. Sometimes, it’s just fakin’ it ’til we make it. 🙂 Don’t give up on yourself. Believe in what you are and who you are and the potential that you have. Remember, even though it seems like there are some who can do “it” all, none of us do. None of us can do everything that it seems like we are doing. We have strengths and weakness and wonderful things and hard things.